Thousands of women have been lured from the home by humanists & feminists
trying to find their fulfillment in their career outside the home.
They have been deceived to think that childbearing is an inferior task
when all along it is the greatest mission given to them.
~Nancy Campbell
Leaning over her papers, my sixteen year old daughter sighed. Her pencil slipped from her fingers and she slumped her shoulders.
“What’s wrong?” I asked, as I mashed up the boiled potatoes for tonight’s dinner.
“I have to write an essay – an argumentantive essay – and I don’t know what to write about …” she said, her brow wrinkled with despair and a glum look on her young face.
While the love of writing has not been passed down to my daughter yet, I had enrolled her in an online university English composition course. It was proving a good challenge for her – particularly in the essay-writing department.
“Oh, I have so many ideas for such an essay!” I replied, quickly listing off the things I am passionate about (the benefits of home education, health, family, God’s ways, growing your own food, raising children and so many more ideas. “What about an essay on why mothers need to stay home and raise their children?”
Agreeing it would be a great idea, she left the kitchen armed with a pile of great, research books that would help her with her research.
I’m thankful that my mother raised me to know that staying home to raise your children is a valuable and worthwhile cause. While I did attend college — and spent the first few years of my single and then married life working my career, there was no question in my mind that I would stay home to raise our babies and children. When we were blessed with our first child, I honestly informed my boss that I would not be returning after the baby was born. When my firstborn turned a year old, I started a small home-based business, which quickly grew into too much for one person to handle. Grandma was available to help babysit, but still, it felt wrong leaving my children during those few hours in the evening. Just as our homeschooling years would begin, and knowing it was time to give up the many items on my plate, I stepped away from outside work again. This time, it was time to permanently focus solely on my first and foremost important job: a wife and mother.
As our family grew, for several summers, we would take a week off and camp at a local Christian camp. During the chapel hours, parents were encouraged to drop their babies and children off at the scheduled programs. New to me, I carried my little one year old over to the nursery, located across the walkway of the camp, where she would be well taken care of for the hour or two that I sat through the chapel service with my husband. Pinning her laminated name tag to the back of her dress, a childcare worker cheerfully accepted my little one from my arms and encouraged me to hurry over to chapel. Of course, my little one did not want to be left there. She knew no one in the room … no relatives … no mommy … in my heart, I knew it was wrong, however I tried it for a few chapel services. Soon, my motherly conscience told me to stop leaving my little one year old in the care of others, even in a Christian setting. From the chapel service, I could hear little ones crying and calling for their mothers.
It bothered me enough to excuse myself from the service and go collect my daughter. Since that day, I decided to it was not right to leave my baby, even use the church nursery that is made available.
Perhaps, you say, that is extreme.
Perhaps it is.
But it sits right to me. These children were only given to my husband and I, a responsibility I do not take lightly.
Here are some details my daughter has gathered so far in her research for her essay:
– 71% of moms with kids under eighteen, and 65% of moms with kids under six are out in the work force now.
(according to Mary Eberstadt, author of the book, “Home-Alone America: The Hidden Toll of Day Care, Behavioral Drugs, and Other Parent Substitutes)
Why your face matters to your baby: No masks, please!
Is your young child have tantrums?
The findings from a “huge, long-term government study…show that kids who spend long hours
in day care have behaviour problems
that persist well into elementary school,” reported Heide Lang in a 2005 piece in Psychology Today.
Read this.
“Specifically, our many research reports revealed that the more time children spent in any kind of non-familial child care, and sometimes specifically in centers, the more aggressive and disobedient they proved to be at two and 4.5 years of age, as well as across their elementary school years; and the more impulsive they proved to be at age 15, at which age they also engaged in more “risky” behavior than children who experienced far less non-familial care across their first five years of life.” – source
Daycare can cause stress for your young baby, harming their future.
“Significant among the reams of research are the so-called cortisol studies, which measured the presence of stress hormones in young babies and consistently found these levels to be higher in children in long day care. These have been linked with greater aggression and anxiety found in older children in long day care but are also known to affect the development of a range of neurotransmitters, whose pathways in the brain are still being built. These permanent brain changes are now thought by scientists and psychiatrists to affect the way the child will react to stress, anxiety and negative feelings in later life.”
Professors Harriet Vermeer and Marinus van IJzendoorn conducted a meta-analysis of nine daycare studies examining trajectories in the stress hormone cortisol. Their article concludes:
“Our main finding was that at daycare children display higher cortisol levels compared to the home setting. Diurnal patterns revealed significant increases from morning to afternoon, but at daycare only….Age appeared to be the most significant moderator of this relation. It was shown that the effect of daycare attendance on cortisol excretion was especially notable in children younger than 36 months. We speculate that children in center daycare show elevated cortisol levels because of their stressful interactions in a group setting.” – source
Staying at home has eliminated all need for bottles, formula or even soothers. Wonderful!
Babies who were nursed have a lower chance of being depressed in their youth. – source
No matter what anyone think, mothers cannot be replaced with a great well trained nanny.
-source
Excuse me now … I must go snuggle my sweet little baby while he naps …
Can a woman forget her sucking child,
that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb?
Yea, they may forget, but I will not forget thee.
Isaiah 49:15
by Gigi
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