Problems in Society

 

Spring time birds were singing and the sun was beginning to shine. School was finished for the day and I was outside, raking up the front yard, welcoming the sunshine on my skin after a long (but lovely) winter.  All of the younger children were playing around the yard or helping their father with our current outdoor household project.

 

Looking up from my raking, I noticed a neighbour, who I had recently met, had pulled into the driveway. She had come over to return something and we ended up chatting and getting to know each other a little better.  With only a few weeks left in her first pregnancy, she had many questions regarding babies and having children in our current world (which is not the most positive time in history, as I am sure you have noticed).

 

 

“I was wondering, do any of your children have cell phones?” the young woman asked, obviously curious about a different way of life. Surprised,  I said no and explained that I do not have a cell phone either – only my husband has one. “That’s great,” she replied. “My husband is addicted to his and it drives me crazy… he has to have it everywhere with him!”

I was saddened to hear this – with their first baby expected soon, I know how hard and detrimental it will be to their newly-formed family if the soon-to-be dad stays addicted to his smartphone.

 

 

 

In fact, it has really been bothering me lately to see so many parents and adults constantly on their smartphones, not to mention the younger and vulnerable generation. It really does not matter where or what the situation is, their fancy smartphone is easily slipped into their hands and time is quickly taken up by their scrolling and screen time. We have made an effort to explain to our older children why we do not want them to have a cell phone.

Ladies, do you recognize this nation-wide problem?
Do you understand how detrimental this smart phone addiction is to our children and to ourselves?

 

I do wish we could go back to the early 200s when smart cellphones did not rule the households. I still have a landline so if you want to call me, you may do so! No texting required!

If you do a quick study on the addiction of smart phones, you will see how dangerous they are, not to mention the radiation that is emitted from the devices.  In many ways, your smart phone is mini computer and a telephone all in one. Can you imagine if we all carried a computer around with us so we can look up any information or watch a you tube video at any point in the day? Can you picture yourself bringing your home phone to a restaurant and putting it in your table and answering calls while you are out for dinner? What if you were on a canoe ride – would you take your home phone with you, lug it about and put it next to you in the canoe? Would you bring your computer to church so you could look up the latest news and report what is happening on the other side of the world?

Oh yes, cell phones are handy and can be very useful. Of course, they are; the technology is amazing and has been created so well – you do not have to think anymore as the smart phone does it for you. You do not need a library – just look it up on the phone. You do not need to write down any one’s phone number or even memorize it – it is stored in your phone. Who needs a cookbook when there are millions of recipes on your phone? You could argue how wonderful smart phones are and probably win that argument without much of a fight. However, what has the smart phone taken away from society? What has been robbed from our lives?

It has stripped us of our ability to communicate naturally. It has taken away the younger children’s desire to socialize in a real-life setting. It has removed decency and politeness (have you ever noticed how rude someone can talk to you in an email or text, when they would probably not speak so boldly to your face in real life?) in many situations. It has created learning troubles in little children and stunted their mental development. Teenagers are definitely at risk!

 

Cell phones have been designed to be addictive, along with social media sites such as Facebook, instagram and TikTok.  Along with this addictive habit, it has a dangerous consequence on your health.   It is particularly dangerous for your children. 

 

I was in the dentist office this week – and sadly, I was the only person in the waiting room that was not looking at a cell phone. Instead, I took some crocheting and kept my fingers busy while I waited for my appointment. When my appointment was finished, I had the receptionist call my husband  – ladies, I survived without a cell phone. 😉

 

Perhaps you feel you are mature enough and old enough to have a smart phone – but what about the younger generation that has never know the over adult generation to be without a cell phone in their hands? How does that affect relationships or even just the child’s view of the society? Is it so natural to have a cell phone in your hand that your child would not even consider life to be normal without such a device sitting beside their parent or grandparent’s plate at the dinner table?

 

As you can read, I feel very strongly about this topic. I know it is not a popular opinion and I may receive some negative remarks for stating my opinion.

I urge you to think and pray about this situation and prevalent addiction. It takes a lot of strength to go against the tide of modern society. Do you have enough courage to raise your children outdoors in the fresh air, indoors with books in their hands, playing like regular children, learning in a natural way? Can you survive – as a parent – without a cell phone in your back pocket?

 

 

 

Is it time to unplug that cell phone and go back to simpler living? We lived without smart phones before – can we do it again? I could only pray for such a day.

 

 

April 29, 2025 - 10:45 am

Gigi Laura, that makes complete sense. It is always nice to feel safe while driving and have access to reaching our husband! 😉

April 28, 2025 - 8:19 pm

Laura I agree with everything you’ve said here Gillian, but I also must admit that I do have an old cell phone. I was one of those odd people who had never owned a cell phone whatsoever, and managed alright, until only last summer, when my adult daughter gave me her old iPhone (I think it’s 10 years old). I decided to fire it up because I often feel nervous about driving my van, which is usually in need of repairs, when there is no way to contact my husband if it breaks down. Now that I have a phone, I find it comforting, because I know I could never be stranded somewhere alone, and I also find it convenient. But I really only use it for texting my husband! I have the cheapest possible plan, and I don’t use it for Internet or anything like that. I generally like it, but still, if I had to do without it again I know I would do just fine.

April 28, 2025 - 10:45 am

Michelle Thank you so much for this Gigi! Let me say first that this is me! I have been/am addicted to, not necessarily a phone per say, but to the internet as far as looking and looking, not anything bad but using my time(much time) on this instead of being the godly wife, mother, home keeper and home schoolteacher that I should be! And now I see this “sin”(making it an idol in my life) and the consequences being passed on to my children. I can’t change what has happened in the past but praise the Lord…I can repent and change the now and the future. You are right in everything you have shared in this post. It is a real problem for us adults and how can we expect our children to do better. It is so sad to see this in godly families. I just love and appreciate and thank you for sharing your heart on this matter. It has helped me see what I need to do differently in my life and home. My husband has a problem with this, I think more so than myself, but I can’t change him. I can only work on my life but maybe with my change and doing what I should, will make a difference in his life and our children. I wish we had like-minded families to share our lives with as well. Most of who we are in contact with even at church, are also addicted to phones, Facebook, Instagram etc….It is tough!! It would take a VERY disciplined person to use phones/internet responsibly! We can pray and be obedient to what the Lord would have us to do, and I think He will bless and honor our requests in this area. Thank you again for this post! If for nobody else, IT IS FOR ME! You and your family are such a blessing to me! I appreciate you and your posts!

April 25, 2025 - 7:01 pm

Gigi Hi Rebecca, a regular old cell phone (no internet) is a great idea, if you need emergency phone service! I agree with you – everything pushes us to use a smartphone. I remember, once in a pregnancy, needing bloodwork and I had to sign in through a phone and then wait for them to text me to come in – well, I had no phone. I just went to the office and sat there until they could see me (I explained I had no phone for texting). I think, for your Azure order, perhaps email could work. You will never know until you try. 🙂 I have done bulk ordering organizing and it has all been through email. Of course, somethings cannot be ignored and if you need that Smartphone for a reason, I’m sure you can work out how to use it responsibly. I do see it as being an aggressive problem – so I am quite happy to just wash my hands of it (but I am a bit extreme in this area, I am sure!).

April 25, 2025 - 2:36 pm

Rebecca I love this post. I shared it with several of my like-minded friends. None of us allow our children to have cell phones but we struggle with how we mom’s are to manage our lives without a device. For example, we have an Azure group (organic bulk groceries in the US) that we coordinate and we use an app on our iphones to communicate to the group. Would others in the group be ok if we went back to email communication only? Not everyone shares our desire to get rid of our smart phones. And of course, the app we use to communicate doesn’t work on a computer unless it’s also connected to a smart phone. Technology is always pushing you towards using their newest and “greatest” technology by making older technologies obsolete (such as several of us have old iphones that now can’t be updated and we don’t want the new ones with face recognition, a huge price tag, etc). These are the questions we are trying to work out. How can we manage our modern lives, but maybe switch to “dumb” phones for when we travel and want the ability to call our husbands if we break down (a real concern in Alaska!)? Thank you for this post. It’s given us more to discuss and think about!

April 24, 2025 - 10:24 am

Regina I miss the days of no smartphones. I feel like life was so much simpler. I see couples out at restaurants instead of engaging each other, they would be on their phones. Families out together each on their phones. I originally refused to get a smartphone when they first came out but ended up with a free one back in 2010 I think when Tracfone (my cell provider) contacted their customers thst they were sending free smartphones because they were updating their systems and our current phones would no longer work.
Smartphones have come a long way but I feel like they are such an annoyance. Its especially awful when people are out in public. Do I really need to know that so and so drinks too much? Its like people have forgotten about discretion.

April 24, 2025 - 4:10 am

Kate I agree with you Gigi. It is very sad to see how the cell phone has taken over peoples lives and taken people away from God. I am 60 years old but, when I lived at home as a younger girl we had a party line. You had to wait your turn to use the phone line. I miss those times. Thank you for the lovely post that you always share.

April 23, 2025 - 1:31 pm

Rose I completely agree with you.

April 23, 2025 - 9:12 am

Monica First of all, beautiful photos of your lovely children and home! Thank you for writing about this. I honestly think that we are in a black hole with this, the entire society is addicted (as a whole) and most people would rather have access to their devices than to even have food (especially young people). Sometimes I wonder if the only thing that will get us out of this addiction is, drumroll… a new and “better” addiction—some newfangled device that is better and greater than the smartphone. I think of the book, Fahrenheit 451 where books were outlawed and people had tv for walls instead of actual walls to decorate. So when they went from room to room, they could watch tv on their walls. Devastating.
As Christians, we pray for grace to use technology wisely and to have modesty in all areas of our lives. It’s a constant struggle to live in society today where everything is in excess. May the Lord grant us grace to be sober and vigilant. Being on guard while raising children today is an absolute must. If our children see us on our smartphones all of the time, how can we expect them to use wisdom and discretion when they have one? The biggest danger of smartphones with teenagers (boys) is the immediate display of pornography at the touch of a button. It is not wise to give your children these devices and “hope for the best” of to think “they would never…” We are to be watchful over their souls.
It’s a true problem today. We must trust the Lord and do our part within our own families and pray by our examples, others will feel the desire to lead their own families in a godly manner. And may God grant those of us who do have smartphones, grace to lay them down and to use them wisely when we have to and not allow them to become idols.
Thank you for this post, my dear friend. xo

April 23, 2025 - 4:10 am

Gigi Annie, I understand that peer pressure is a real thing – even amongst adults. As my dad used to say, “Friends are the nails in our coffin.” In other words, find good friends – godly friends! Godly families with strong like-minded faith that will strengthen you, instead of pull you towards the world. We are blessed to have our little group of like minded friends. We found them first, just through the Lord bringing them to our church as visitors; we then invited them over for dinner, knowing we had like minded thinking and shared similar convictions. Others are friends through penpal writing, which has progressed to real life friends. If you are in the US, I know there are many family camps available that would have families with strong faith and convictions, living contrary to modern society; that may be a good place to start. I will pray you find some like minded friends!

April 23, 2025 - 3:33 am

Penny Price I so agree with this Gigi, we are only now finding the huge negatives to do with smartphones and the inability to put them down. When our daughters were young they would come home from school complaining that everyone else had a phone except them. We explained our rules and reasonings and stood firm, after all we were the adults. In due course they bought their own phones as adults but they have a better more detached relationship to them than their peers and thank us for our steadfast attitude when they were growing up. Our first grandchild has been born and they are really strict about no screen on in the room with the child, whether that be phone, TV or computer. Good parenting cascades down the generations. Well done Gigi!

April 22, 2025 - 10:11 pm

Annie Gigi, as a mother to a young daughter, I totally agree with you here. Can I ask whether your children feel “left out” of friend groups, or otherwise influenced by friends to have a phone and participate in modern trends? I hope to find a strong group for my children as they get older, so they don’t feel a desire for a phone because their lives are full of good things and people instead! But as time goes on and we’re not yet able to give her siblings on earth, I am curious how others are able to find strong friends outside of family so their kids don’t feel the need to be connected online. I appreciate your thoughts!

April 22, 2025 - 6:39 pm

Gigi HELLO GIGI, WHAT A WONDERFUL MESSAGE AND RESPECTED OPINION, I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU¡¡¡¡¡ I AM 65 YEARS OLD AND A LONG TIME AGO WE DID NOT HAVE A SMARTPHONE, OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT THERE IS TODAY, OUR HOBBY WAS BOOKS, PLAYING HIDE AND SEEK WITH FRIENDS, RIDING A BIKE, FLYING KITES, PLAYING HOPSCOTCH, JUMPING ROPE ECT. GAMES SO BEAUTIFUL THAT THEY CAN’T BE SEEN ANYMORE, WHAT A SHAME, MY GRANDCHILDREN ARE LIKE CRAZY WITH CELL PHONES, I TALK TO MY DAUGHTERS NOT TO GIVE THEM TO THEM, BUT SINCE THEY ARE VERY BUSY, THEY SAY THAT THEY ENTERTAIN THEM AND LEAVE THEM ALONE FOR A WHILE, IT IS SAD WHAT I SAY BUT IT IS THE REAL LIFE OF THIS SOCIETY IN WHICH WE LIVE. I BELIEVE WE ARE FACING A FUTURE OF AUTOMATON CHILDREN BEING DIRECTED BY A SMALL DEVICE THAT CONTROLS THEIR LIVES, THEIR BRAINS AND EMOTIONS……. IT MAKES ME VERY SAD. I LOVE YOUR BLOG AND YOUR LIFESTYLE, I ALSO LIKE TO LIVE LIKE THIS, ALTHOUGH THEY CALL ME OLD-FASHIONED, I’M FROM THE CAVE TIMES HAHAHA. BLESSINGS FROM A DISTANCE.

April 22, 2025 - 6:33 pm

ANA HOLA GIGI, QUE MARAVILLOSO MENSAJE Y RESPETADA OPINION, ESTOY TOTALMENTE DE ACUERDO CONTIGO¡¡¡¡¡ YO TENGO 65 AÑOS Y HACE MUCHO TIEMPO NO TENIAMOS TELEFONO INTELIGENTE, NI NADA DE LO QUE HAY HOY EN DIA, NUESTRO PASATIEMPO ERAN LOS LIBROS,JUGAR CON AMIGOS A LAS ESCONDIDAS, ANDAR EN BICICLETA, REMONTAR BARRILETES, JUGAR A LA RAYUELA, SALTAR A LA SOGA ECT.JUEGOS TAN HERMOSOS QUE YA NO SE VEN QUE PENA, MIS NIETOS ESTAN COMO LOCOS CON LOS CELULARES, YO LES HABLO A MIS HIJAS QUE NO SE LOS DEN, PERO COMO ESTAN MUY OCUPADAS, DICEN QUE ESO LO ENTRETIENEN Y LAS DEJA TRANQUILAS POR UN RATO, ES TRISTE LO QUE DIGO PERO ES LA VIDA REAL DE ESTA SOCIEDAD EN LA QUE VIVIMOS. CREO QUE NOS ESTAMOS ENFRENTANDO A UN FUTURO DE NIÑOS AUTOMATAS SIENDO DIRIGIDOS POR UN PEQUEÑO APARATO QUE CONTROLA SUS VIDAS,SU CEREBRO Y EMOCIONES……. ME DA MUCHA PENA. ME ENCANTA TU BLOG Y TU ESTILO DE VIDA, TAMBIEN ME GUSTA VIVIR ASI, AUNQUE ME DICEN ANTICUADA, QUE SOY DE LAS EPOCAS DE LAS CAVERNAS JAJAJA. BENDICIONES A LA DISTANCIA.