There is nothing like staying at home
for real comfort.”
-Jane Austen
The {pink} phone in the kitchen rang, briefly interrupting our morning homeschool reading hour … it was my husband, letting me know he would not be home for dinner … he was needed at the funeral home until at least 9:30 p.m. With the phone resting against my shoulder and ear, I quickly moved the pot of meatballs over to one side of the cookstove and mentally re-arranged the menu while he explained his work schedule. I’d save the meatballs (one of his favorites) for another night and have a simpler meal for the children and I instead. I thanked him for letting me know and, seeing as my husband would not be home for dinner, I also silently thanked God that I remembered to send the Man of the House with a hearty lunch of baked beans, turkey sausage and some homemade chocolate cake for his lunch.
This is life as a funeral director’s wife – and one I have come to know too well. At one point in my married life, I would be upset or frustrated by the lack of my husband’s presence at the dinner table. After all, we all know how important family meals are … but sometimes, sometimes life gets in the way of a perfect table setting.
The Lord, through many godly mentors in my life, has worked on my heart – and my response is not nearly a frustrated response as it was in previous years. I know my husband is working hard to provide for our family – running your own business is not for the faint of heart. Being the wife of someone who is on call all the time is also challenging, however I am learning to see the blessings in these little every day issues.
{working on my crochet hearts during tea time}
With the meatball dishes pushed aside and a new simpler dinner course planned, we returned to our homeschooling activities. Early signs of a bitter winter have somewhat arrived in Ontario and this means more time for studies, more time for music lessons and more time for handicrafts. As I piled up mountains of homeschool books and gathered loose papers from the Grade 1’s handwriting practice, I listened to the peaceful music of my daughter’s harp practice in the parlour off the kitchen.
“A heavenly sound,” I thought to myself! It must be one of my favorite musical instruments now … what a pleasure to listen to such a gentle sound while cleaning, preparing dinner or simply sitting by the fire.
“Good old fashioned ways keep hearts sweet, heads sane, hands busy.”
-Louisa May Alcott
I wiped down the kitchen table and prepared the lunch time meal – a hearty pot of homemade creamy potato and beef stew — all the while pondering over a slower, November Monday schedule. The winter season is a wonderful time to refresh the home, clean out closets, paint a room or plan a new project. From my conversations with other women, I hear that there are many mothers and wives who do not enjoy being home – that is so unfortunate because there are so many blessings to staying at home. With so many ways to use your hands, there should never be a boring, dull day.
Some women have told me they feel “trapped” in their home. Others find their home a place to work, but have not found their home comfortable and cozy. I suppose it is how you look at your situation – have you created your home to be a place where it is enjoyable to stay? Is it a place where folks – family and friends – would like to gather? Perhaps it is too stiff and formal or perhaps it is too messy and disorganized. There needs to be a happy place in between – where your home is clean and comfortable, but also a house that is lived in and shows signs of life. It is my goal to have a home that is cozy and welcoming for my husband when he comes home weary and tired after a long day (and night) of work … a little haven from the outside world and pressures and stress.
And if you are feeling lost in your housework and home management, Fly Lady is a great place to get your started and organized – even if you follow her schedule loosely.
Once your home is {somewhat} clean and fairly organized, you will have a little bit of spare time to find something interesting to work on, perhaps something to make the homelife more intersting … it could be music … sewing … painting … writing … photography … gardening … baking … cooking … and all of these talents can be used to bless others, even if not just your own family.
Don’t be afraid to ENJOY being at home! It is a beautiful place to be. I truly feel more folks need to feel the comfort and coziness of just being at home … not rushing to and fro or searching for the next entertainment venue.
Here is a little homemaking project I worked on this weekend – creating some more homemade dish soap.
Here is the recipe:
Homemade Dish Soap
6 lemons, diced and cut up
2 1/2 cups of water
3/4 cups of vinegar
2 cups of salt
Blend your cut up lemons in a food processor. Add water to the blender and blend on high until smooth. Pour into a pot and add vinegar and salt. Cook for about 10-15 minutes, but do not boil. Pour into storage containers of your choice.
This is a great dish soap. It smells so fresh, clean and lovely! If you want more soap bubbles (as most of us are condition to see bubbles and think “clean”), just add a squirt of regular dish soap. I also use it with a dash of baking soda to scrub out my kitchen sink at the end of the night.
There really is nothing glamorous in this project – but it was satisfying and useful. Finding ways of keeping your home fresh and clean may seem humble and rather silly, but it still brings joy. 🙂
Here is another little project to bring some joy to my homemaking days … I found a local nursery that selling off the last of their colorful, happy pansies to reduce their stock over winter. I excitedly bought a flat of pansies for $3. These could go as pretty little gifts for friends or perhaps just spread some cheer around the home during the dark winter days ahead.
I hope you can find some joy in your homemaking … there is much to do in your home, within your four walls … whether it involves rearing children, cooking healthy meals or creating a new project …
by Gigi
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