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The large canning pot is bubbling away, sealing up the 24 jars of  jelly I have just made on this warm afternoon. Little ones are napping & the older girls are out with the animals, playing Sacagawea and Jean-Baptist, scarves wrapped around their heads and a scraggly rooster tucker under one of their arms. The weather is delightful today – overcast and quite windy. It has been so hot lately that this nice cooler weather is a welcomed break in scorching July temperatures. I love hearing the wind – it reminds me of ocean waves…

Life has been good lately. How has it been for you? It’s been quiet – the kind of day where you can hear the wind rustling in the summer green leaves of the trees all around, the crickets singing at night … yes, you can even hear a chicken snore at times (did you know chickens snore? I did not know until we started raising hens and yes, they do indeed snore). A few thrift store shopping trips with the girls, canning some jam and weeding – lots of weeding. We have quite a few friends who have immaculate, stunning large gardens and it is always inspiring to visit them. Not discouraging, but inspiring. Lyla (who just turned 10 last week!!) says she wants a flower garden just like the one we visited this week. It was impressive, to say the least. I suggested we try to make a garden like that next year, but of course, that comes with more weeding.

When we work in the  garden, we reward the girls (sometimes) with an ice cream treat afterwards, as we are all usually hot and sweaty. But they are not always rewarded. Taking care of the gardens is just something we have to do. It’s a part of being part of the family!  A dunk in the pool is a welcome relief on those hot sticky days after spending time in the garden- that, too, is a nice reward.

We have 92 tomato plants this year! I cannot wait to can and preserve all those lovely tomatoes, Lord willing! Our beans, carrots and peas are doing fine, but it is not enough for our family. (Sadly, I think the chickens ate the seeds before they could grow.) I look forward to seeing more grow in the garden over the rest of the summer.

In a society where you can be doing anything almost anytime, experiencing new adventures and watching entertainment that will delight you or taking new classes to teach you a new hobby, I’m quite positive that working at home – even so,  in the garden  – is still a beautiful way to spend and invest your time. I am not a particular lover of gardening – but I cannot let a season pass by without doing my part to grow food for the family. I just cannot! Also, I know it is one way to teach a life skill of working at something and seeing it (hopefully) produce a wonderful end result.

It is a great learning experience for the children. Within the vegetable garden, I believe children (and myself) are brought closer to nature as they unearth new bugs and beetles. They see, firsthand, the wonders of God’s handiwork as a lovely flower turns into a delicious squash or bright green cucumber or even a lovely, red tomato plant. We are able to practice, alongside the children, a little bit of hard-work ethic, doing something that may not be entertaining by society’s standards (pulling weed after weed, row upon row) but if gives you time to think, be quiet, sing a song, talk to your siblings, listen to the birds’ sing or the wind whisper…

You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands;
you shall be blessed, and it shall be well with you.
Psalm 128:2

Of course, there are always a few children that have to be persuaded to do the garden chores, but that is just the way it is. Sticking with it and tending the garden, even if you are tired and hot and want to be doing something else, teaches patience and good work ethic. You can’t just quit when you want to or else your garden would be over-run with pesky weeds {ask me how I know}! I truly believe that the jobs the girls have around the home are teaching them, in little ways, how to properly work. In fact, they went over to help their grandma weed her vegetable garden recently and found it an easy task indeed. Her garden, seeing as it is just for two people, is a smaller size and so to the girls, it seemed like a breeze to weed after weeding our two vegetable gardens, not to mention the flower beds and walkways.

We are not doing our children any favors by sheltering them from work, doing everything for them and avoiding teaching them skills that will one day benefit them as an adult. Even the youngest of the family can contribute – tidy shoes, retrieve diapers for mommy, clear her dishes, even just handing her a towel to help “dry” the dishes is preparation for when she really will need to help out with the kitchen chores.

Hard work is good for the body, good for the soul and good for the mind!

In fact, the Bible clearly advises to stay clear of laziness and to work with your hands. Just this morning, one of my girls, while doing her morning chores, said “I actually LIKE doing chores, mommy.” My heart was happy to hear this! Working hard, breaking a sweat – it is a good thing.

And to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you, so that you may walk properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one.
1 Thessalonians 4:11-12

“A cool wind was blowing down over the long harvest fields from the rims of firry western hills
and whistling through the poplars. One clear star hung above the orchard and the fireflies were fitting over in Lovers’ Lane…” 
-Anne of Green Gables

It is July. Sweet July. So hot and carefree. Sweltering days and lovely nights. We are feeling the joys of stretched our summer days, afternoons of quiet play, splashing, loud pool times, drippy, sticky popsicles, campfires and even mornings or evenings of weeding in the vegetable garden.

We like to treat our summers with great ease, schedule less and enjoy long days at home.

The girls & I are outside all. day. long. And I am not stretching the truth. Unless it is raining or unseasonably cold, they are outside.  We eat outside, cook outside, they play outside, we read outside. They climb trees, splash in our makeshift pool, weed gardens, read books on the porch, do crafts on the patio, jump on the trampoline, play with the animals … we eat all our meals outside (again, unless it is raining or cold!) and enjoy as much outdoor time as possible.

We also sleep outside – if we are lucky! As my aunt pointed out, sleeping on the trampoline is an even better option that a tent as far as comfort goes. A trampoline is rather comfy and provides a good view of the beautiful stars in the heavens. We are enjoying cool nights sleeping on the trampoline (although I must admit, I end up inside as I am wanting to sleep in a bed with Lazarus for night time nursing).

Unlike many families, we stay home or visit friends locally. We do not go away or very far very often – especially with all the animals to care for here at home. We do go for one week to a small Christian campground every year, which provides a nice change of pace for everyone. I was talking to a friend the other day and they said every weekend of their summer is booked up with events and social engagements. That surprised me! I do not know if that is a healthy pace to have with a family- at least, it is not for us. We tend to stick close to home and have a fairly low key social life.

A night at home watching the glorious fireflies on the front porch is just as thrilling to me now as it was when I was 12 years old.